So I started asking farmers about their love lives with plans to write about what I found.
But I also had my own agenda: I wanted to know if I moved to the country whether there would be someone there worth having a relationship with.
• Chat with Sparks to develop friendships or possibly more. You only chat with people who want to talk to you, so there’s no time wasted on unanswered messages.
I met Chris at a rock show, and after three drinks and about twice as many not-too-subtle glances, we introduced ourselves. And that’s a super-romantic thing for a partner, which is great because people are generally excited about dating me.
But after The Farmer and I settled on being Just Friends, I had the chance to ask him about what romance on the farm actually looks like — over margaritas in the city, of course. “Because here’s the deal: It’s this fantasy job — being a steward of the land and being a farmer is the most honest job you could ever imagine.
I was looking for the pastoral version of a romantic cheat-sheet, a farmer’s guide to successful matches.
For six months, I called long distance and drove back roads to talk to farmers and ranchers about dating and marriage.