You can’t meet someone new because your old love is still in your life — hanging around being your pal and reminding you how great they are. Insist on a Substantial Cooling Off Period There is almost no way that a human being can go from being romantically attracted to someone to being just friends in a short period of time.Emotions aren’t switches that get flipped on and off. So often times, either as a way to soften the blow or out of sincere feelings of warmth, we say, “But let’s stay friends.” From an intellectual level remaining friends may seem like a good idea. The ever present danger for these types of friendships is a backslide. I like having her in my life, so we should stop being romantic and just keep the friend part.” If both individuals are emotionally mature, and completely lacking in romantic feelings for each other, then a jump straight to the friend zone might be possible. Mutual breakups are usually not mutual, and the breakee is holding on to some strong romantic desires.You don’t need to choose if you are going to be friends Women have a far easier time deciding who they want to be just friends with and who they would pursue a romantic relationship with, but men tend to group all women together on the ‘potentially romantic’ side, and then just decide their order of desirability.
If you did the dumping, the knowledge that this person — this new friend — would love to kiss you will always be in the back of your mind waiting for the right moment to lead you exactly where you don’t want to go. It’s easy to get mixed messages Friends do things for each other. But imagine the likelihood of this happening if you’re still seeing the person regularly.
But the issue this causes is that we are not building strong foundations for relationships.
Friedrich Nietzsche once said: This concept serves to teach us the importance of building a foundation for happiness that stretches beyond intimacy into friendship itself. When dating, we typically only want to show someone our best self.
Why dating your best friend may be your best bet to finding true love.
There's nothing quite like feeling a spark of attraction between you and someone you just met, but lately, we've been wondering whether it's better to date a friend, or at least somebody we've known longer than just a couple of weeks.