In search of a romantic partner I took to that most reliable of 21 century venues for those in search of love: the internet.I joined a language exchange website, one of those myriad online venues on which lonely singles can contact one another whilst hiding behind the thinly veiled guise of ostensibly just looking for someone with whom to practice learning a new language. She asked if I wanted to be her boyfriend and I said sure, why not. On Monday she texted me after work and asked if I wanted to go see the cherry blossoms with her on Dalmaji Hill, a touristy café, art gallery and wedding hall-lined promontory overlooking the East Sea and Busan’s bright and bustling beachfront down below. We met when I got off work and walked there together.“Love will find you when you’re not looking for it.” “Just focus on improving yourself.” “It wasn’t meant to be.” “There are plenty of fish in the sea.” Is there some truth to these sayings? But, I’m thankful my family doesn’t spew out this crappy advice.They are awesome and usually make comments like these after my relationships end.
Lame Advice Regarding Dating Do you ever get bad advice about dating?In Korea, coupledom is as much about the performance of coupledom as it is about dating itself.In other words, what’s the point in dating unless you can really let everyone around you know that you’re dating, unless total strangers and Facebook friends alike can really feel the full force of your relationship? Every movie ticket purchased was photographed and uploaded so people could see that we had gone to see together and then that mediocre new Spiderman sequel (What ever happened to Tobey Maguire? Every daytime excursion to a strawberry farm in the countryside, the notes we wrote to each other and posted on the wall of a coffee shop near said strawberry farm, every shared bowl of flavored shaved ice, every hike, all of our various dating acts recorded and documented and posted in a bundle of photos on Facebook along with a succinct written summary of our activities, all of this information about our coupledom sent hurtling out headlong into the social media morass.We traveled to the Philippines when I was 8 years old and I most certainly left pieces of my heart there. So that’s just a few of the my reasons, it’s easier to see the picture once you have some of the puzzle pieces.When I arrived in Korea in September 2013 I sort of hit the ground running as far as dating went and started finding guys to drink coffee with and go out with as soon as I arrived. I met guys at bars, at church, online, and even at the 7-Eleven by my house. I’ve polled some of my friends who have dated in Korea and I’ve racked my mind about it and so without further ado, and in no particular order, here’s a list of things I think every woman should know.