Even if you meet someone to whom you think you have no previous connection, a 10-minute conversation almost always reveals that she went to high school with your college roommate, used to be on a volleyball team with that girl from your book club, and had a six-month stand with your favorite barista.Queers don't tend to expect our dates to come into our lives completely free of prior complication.) It’s about what I didn't do and, more importantly, what people do when pursuing the exes of their best friends, or less-than-best friends, even.From the lips of relationship fuck-ups and our resident sex sociologist, Dr.Assess the situation by putting yourself in their shoes and thinking about how you would react if the situation was flipped."The thing to remember is to be open about your feelings", says Dr. "Though you always run the risk of hurting others, no good ever comes from keeping secrets in these types of situations.Apparently Angie's divorce was not an amicable one, and her ex was infuriated with both of them.
But do you think the idea of my body being metaphorically blown to smithereens stopped me from dating not one, but two (yeah...) of my best friend's ex-girlfriends? But this isn't about Peter (fake name), Jessica (fake name), or even Mothra Blurgenstein (shockingly, actual name -- kidding!
They believe this is something everybody knows, that they're just following the rules.
What I've noticed, though, is that every person I've heard espouse this worldview was straight.
This rule is almost never stated or enforced among queer communities.
If you're gay, you will almost inevitably date a friend's ex at some point.