By sharing these stories, and talking about what makes real love so empowering and special, we can help the next generation find the loving, respectful partners they deserve.For a tween or teen experiencing their first crush — pounding heart, sweating hands, and elation or depression (depending on what the object of their affection just did) — love doesn’t necessarily feel like a wonderful thing, but understanding the difference between the overwhelming emotions of first love and unhealthy attachment and dependency on a partner are crucial.And so, to help further the discussion, we offer in this article a gender-based analysis of teen dating violence with a developmental perspective. We look at what we know — and what we don't know — about who is the perpetrator and who is the victim in teen dating violence.We also discuss how adult and adolescent romantic relationships differ in the hope that an examination of existing research will help us better understand the problem and move the field toward the creation of developmentally appropriate prevention programs and effective interventions for teenagers.Dating violence is not about getting angry or having a disagreement. Many people in abusive relationships are no longer capable of seeing their own abilities or gifts.In an abusive relationship one partner is afraid of or intimidated by the other. Encourage your friend to confide in a trusted adult.Consequently, those in the field have to rely on an framework to examine the problem of teen dating violence.However, we find that this adult framework does not take into account key differences between adolescent and adult romantic relationships.
In dating violence, one partner tries to maintain power and control over the other partner through abuse.Young people tend to model their romantic relationships on the ones they see around them.This means that teens who witness domestic violence are more likely than their peers to both suffer from and perpetrate abuse.Remember that you have the right to a healthy relationship. You have done nothing wrong, and the abuse is not your fault. Talk to your parents, another family member, a friend, your physician, a counselor, a clergy person, or someone else you trust. You may need it as evidence if you have to take legal action. Do not let the abuser in your home or car when you are alone. The multi-racial, mixed gender MVP team is the first large-scale attempt to enlist high school, collegiate and professional athletes in the effort to prevent all forms of men's violence against women.The longer you stay in an abusive relationship, the more intense the violence will become. If you remain isolated from family and friends, your abuser has more opportunity to control you. Many domestic violence programs offer services for teens. Avoid being alone at school, your job, or on the way to and from places. Utilizing a unique bystander approach to gender violence prevention, the MVP Program views student-athletes and student leaders not as potential perpetrators or victims, but as empowered bystanders who can confront abusive peers.